It is often said of those of us in business, that we are self-confident. Today, I’m sitting down to figure out what that really means.
The dictionary definition of ‘self-confident’ is:
1. realistic confidence in one’s own judgment, ability, power, etc.
2. excessive or inflated confidence in one’s own judgment, ability etc.
Isn’t that interesting? Where do we draw the line between realistic and excessive confidence? Who determines which is which and where the one becomes the other? Thoughts differ between societies, social groups and even families. One person’s natural confidence can be seen as excessive by someone who is shy etc.
Basically, when it comes right down to it, it means to be confident in one’s own ability to perform tasks, be successful and generally cope well with life (whether that be realistic or inflated).
Now, as Christians, we’re continually told by God that we don’t have to rely on our own abilities, judgment or power. We acknowledge that God is far greater at everything than we could ever be. And what a relief that is!
Just realizing that God knows more about the situations we face than we do brings us a great sense of peace. We can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that our own limited abilities don’t have to be what determines our success. We can rely on God, who knows everything, to come alongside us and work everything out.
Now that doesn’t mean to say that we are useless, weak and incompetent. Quite the opposite in fact. God Himself created us for a specific purpose. He lovingly concentrated on each one of us as He put together exactly what we would be like. The color of our eyes and hair, the shape of our body, our personality type, our likes and dislikes and – even right down to our sense of humor and what we would find funny. Such great, specific and loving attention to detail in itself means that we are amazing and have every right to be confident in who God made us to be.
Think about it. There is no-one else like you in the whole world. Even biologically nearly identical twins are their own unique person. Add to that the combinations of varied experiences we all go through and the different way we see and react to what happens to us throughout life. You can see that these all contribute to making each of us into a tapestry consisting of millions of individual strands that form a unique and intricately beautiful person.
So, when we look at the definition above, we realize that we don’t have to rely on only our own:
When it comes to being able to judge a situation, God is amazing at it. He knows just what to do in any given situation, which will cause it to turn out perfectly according to His bigger view of things.
God’s ability to do anything is greater than ours. The beautiful thing is that He wants to do things WITH us. That’s the nature of relationship. That’s Him adding His ‘super’ to our ‘natural’ and making it…(you guessed it) SUPERNATURAL!
God is the most powerful being that exists. Over and over throughout the Bible, He tells us that we don’t have to do things in our own power. He is right there waiting for us to ask Him to help. He absolutely delights in being with us as we discover the astounding things He’s put in place on the earth. It puts a big smile on His face when we want to do things with Him, want to learn from Him and want to spend each day with Him.
Wow, what a privilege we have!
When all is said and done it basically comes down to the fact that it is confidence in:
– Him being with us in loving relationship
– Being who God made us to be, and
– the natural consequences that result are the world sees God for the wonnderful Father He is
These are what should be what we measure our ‘self-confidence’ by. Then we’re free to have excessive and inflated confidence in God’s ability IN, THROUGH and WITH us!
Ask this question – “God, what do You love about me?” and share His reply with us in the comments below…
Lisa van den Berg hails from South Africa, via the UK, and has dedicated her over two-decade career to helping people achieve success. She has honed her skills in a variety of roles including systems implementation and management, coaching and mentoring, and customer care. She has worked for a wide range of firms from national IT consultancies to local not for profits, and across both business and church sectors.
Lisa is the Director of ‘Heaven in Business Online’ where she spends her time creating and sourcing transformative teaching and case studies on partnering with God at work, for the online Community. Lisa, and her husband Frans, live in Redding, CA