Has something happened to you that’s unfair?

Has something you did in good faith backfired on you?

Has someone you trust let you down?

We are in the middle of that scenario right now and found ourselves getting all bitter and resentful as we looked at yet another bill that we can’t pay. Tonight, we’d had enough, and decided to do something about it.

Just like many of us, we KNOW what to do. We’re supposed to forgive. We’re supposed to trust God. We’re supposed to be at peace.

However, we all know that this is often easier said than done.

We’ve been through all the cycles of emotion as this scenario has unfolded over the past few months and, every time the hurt and frustration raise their heads, we’ve tried to deal with them.

We’ve tried to just let it go and forget about it. We’ve tried to excuse the other person’s behavior. We’ve tried to write it off. But none of these have worked because we haven’t been listening to the only One who really knows how to deal with this situation.

We realized that we had a choice. We were at a crossroads where we could choose how we were going to behave.

Were we going to make this our problem or were we going to forgive the person, work on a solution with God and ask Holy Spirit for an answer?

We chose God. And this was His advice…

“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Col 3:12-13 (NIV)

So tonight we sat and gave the situation to God. We spoke out our forgiveness of the person who has, through a series of bad choices, caused us so much distress. We checked our own behavior with God, to see if there was anything we needed to repent of, and did so.

We talked it through with God and asked Him to help us deal with the fear and anxiety that we feel. We asked Him to help the other individual be healed of the behavior that is so destructive. We handed the stress over to Him.

We forgave the other person and placed the situation firmly in God’s hands.

A sense of peace and release came over us as we realized that God is so much bigger than the problem we see. We could feel His delight. It was Philippians 4:6-8, come to life…

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Now that we had cleared the way, we could remember the verses about God’s provision that we’ve been storing up in our hearts. Promises like:

“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.” (Eph 3:20-21)

And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. (2 Cor 9:8)

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Mat 6:33)

The burden has been lifted off our shoulders and we feel light and full of peace. God is looking after us and all is well.


What burdens are you carrying that you can hand over to God?

Who has done you an injustice that you get to forgive?

How can you walk free of fear and bitterness and into peace and quiet instead?


Frans and Lisa van den Berg live in Redding, CA (via South Africa and the UK) and have many years experience in helping people to practically implement their dreams.

They have a passion to go on the adventure of applying the Truths in the Bible to everyday life – and taking as many people with them as want to come along.

Frans worked in IT architecture for many years, bringing solutions to clients that advanced business, nurtured teams and impacted the world. Lisa has worked in both business and church sectors and specializes in building systems that support building people. 

Frans is writing an epic novel and Lisa is the Director of Heaven in Business Online, the online Marketplace ministry arm of Bethel Church, Redding, California.


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