It’s time to change my narrative. My narrative is the story of my life. I get to emphasize the parts I choose. Feedback from a few close friends let me know that I was emphasizing the wrong things. I was focussed on some painful experiences of the past rather than what I have become through those experiences. I had a lightbulb moment. Here’s what I learned….
Your life is a masterpiece
Your life is a masterpiece, a designer art piece being fashioned by God Himself. You are the clay; He is the potter.
Your life is in process of change
The process of being fashioned and formed into something beautiful and productive is not always fun. Have you seen the tools a potter uses?! In the wrong hands many of them could easily be a murder weapon!
Change is not always fun
God uses tools to shape and fashion your life. He is only good; there is not shadow or deceit in Him. He does not cause evil things to happen so that He can teach you something. That would not be a loving Father; it would be abuse. He does redeem evil situations and bad circumstances and turns them for good. He can take a painful leadership experience or event and turn it into the very tool in His hand that shapes you into awesome.
Changing perspective helps the process
Problem was I was still complaining about the painful event – the chisel, or potters tool, rather than seeing it through Heaven’s perspective.
When I had the lightbulb moment I suddenly realized I am who I am because of the painful situations that God has redeemed so well (a chisel in His hand). The very situations or events that I was reacting to were the same ones that have developed my character, wisdom and abilities to do the very things I get to do now; to be the person I am today.
It’s not about the chisel
Wow, that changes things.
I can now genuinely say, “Thank you […leader, person, situation, delay, event…]. You were a chisel in the hand of God sculpting me into awesome!”
It doesn’t take away or minimize the pain; it does give it purpose. It also allows me to focus less on the pain and more on the hand of my God that has shaped me, and is shaping me into all He made me to be.
“Woe to him who strives with his Maker!
Shall the clay say to him who forms it, ‘What are you making?’ “
You were born for awesome!
In order for us to step into what’s next we need to let go of what ‘was.’ It’s time to stop striving with God by holding onto all the painful tools that have actually ended up shaping us into something beautiful. The tool may be ugly; the result, in God’s hand, is a masterpiece.
It’s time to change perspective.
What do you need to let go of? Who do you need to forgive? When you start to see from Heaven’s perspective what painful situations have actually resulted in your greatest growth?
What is the Maker forming and shaping you into? How can you partner with that rather than striving against it?
He has worked for a national consultancy firm and leading financial institution as well as investing in international community development.
Andy is the director of Heaven in Business and together with his wife, Janine, leads Dream Culture – a movement catalyzing people to discover and live their dreams. Andy and Janine live with their four children in Redding, CA. For more see www.AndyandJanine.com.